Do you sometimes look around and wonder, how in the world am I making it with all of the things that seem to be coming down on me? Do you ever have thoughts like there is just never enough time, never enough money, I don't know how I'm going to meet all of the demands this day, week, or month, year, or something is just taking way longer than I thought and I am running out of patience with the process or what seems to be laid back, non-caring, "not doing their job", couldn't give 2 hoots about me receiving whatever it is that I am waiting for ? Why can't people just do their jobs and the world would go smoother type of thoughts?
It may be a season that you are going through, a pop-quiz, or something else. Whatever it is, it definitely serves a purpose. One of the purposes is that you may need endurance during the test of patience. Perhaps you have gained some knowledge about a common theme in your life or you are ready to shift to a new way of doing things. You will likely need to call in support to change the old habits.
I recently had a client who recognized that she had been "committing financial infidelity" majority of her life. Before you gasp and finger point let me shed a little light on this scenario. This is something that was ingrained in her and that's how she knew to handle money and the relationships of those she loves. Her symptoms did not show up shopping and secretly hiding the clothes, the credit card statements, etc. This was not her thing (in fact she did not shop but a couple of times per year), but that is another sign and symptom of financial infidelity. It's just that she never told anyone about the current state of financial affairs because her belief that she carried the worry for the family was what she needed to do. Long before that she didn't look at the financial data because all of the ends were being met. If she missed a payment here and there it was because she "forgot" and then would react to the trigger of the phone call about it being late.
Now that she is aware of this we have identified a couple of action steps to change the belief that she is the sole person carrying the burden, identified action steps to change the situation, and systems to measure progress and establish healthy boundaries with herself and her loved ones. It's not easy, but step by step she is making progress and feels less stressed.
We tend to either do the things that our parents taught us or completely opposite. You are either an apple or orange. You choose which tree your fruit will bare and neither one is right or wrong, but everyone has some room for improving the underlying operating system. If you are the orange you are operating out of fear of being like your parents or parental figures. If you are like the apple then you are likely operating from a depression, recession, or some other era.
Times have changed and we have more opportunity than ever with the use of technology and new inventions, innovations, but our brains have not been rewired to keep up so we must take an active role in the rewriting of the scripts that are played. Slow down and listen to the anxiety, the anger, the stress. They have a very important message and it could just be your next, best breakthrough that releases the shackles.
NIcky Stansbury is the Founder of La Palmera Spa and StressLessSecrets. She is passionate about inspiring others to respond instead of reacting to life's plot twists.