Are you an all or nothing kind of person? Does the idea of starting something overwhelm you and you don't start at all? I'd like to share a quick tip to shift from the "all or nothing mindset" which leads to success in "MindBodyStressLess".
This works for me, as well as my clients. I learned this from my Coach when looking for results to action steps. I have adopted this strategy and implemented in each area of life and when picking a goal or new habit I choose a good number, then a better number, then a best number. For example: I am going to lose @ least 40 pounds. One step to achieving this is that I am going to go to the gym. I measure my success by GOOD=@ least 2 days per week, BETTER=@ least 3 days per week, and BEST=@ least 4 days per week. This allows me to be realistic because not every week I will be able to go as many as 4 days, but it's still good! I have successfully completed 4 weeks, taken an anniversary/birthday trip, and are seeing positive results in most areas of life and business.
What's one way that you can start implementing "good, better, best" in your days?
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As November(one of my favorite months) is hours away and I reflect on the past year I see lots of challenges that we have had to overcome. One being the economic situation of the oil and gas industry and another being the Great Flood 2016. Both of these are still evident today and is no big surprise, however, one that is not so evident and has been a long standing challenge is...You. Actually not You, you, but more like Self. The idea of self-care being a luxury instead of a necessity has been a challenge to overcome.
We got into this industry not because there were millions of dollars up for grabs, but because I was attached to an EKG machine in my mid-30s for lack of caring of myself and giving more than I had in the workforce. It was shortly after my realization that I could die if I didn't begin to understand and change my ways of stress and the pressures that I allowed myself to be under sooner rather than later. Boy, did I ever begin to understand it. I became a Stress Management Life Coach and La Palmera Spa became an extension of this understanding.
I have worked and continue working with my own Coach to make myself a priority. In fact, not only do I walk nearly 4 miles most days I just joined a local crossfit family, called CrossFit Cayenne. I've realized much of my value and without me, I cannot do what I am called to do and that is to be the International Stress Management Life Coach and Owner of La Palmera Spa. Our team all believe in what we do and regularly get massages, facials, use the essential oils, and so much more. So the message that I have for you is truly that Self-Care is not a Luxury.
Don't just take my word for it. In a recent article of Skin, Inc. this holds true in New York as well, "One of the biggest challenges skin care professionals have is convincing clients that skin care is a priority, not a luxury. Regularly getting them back in the treatment room can be a battle."
For my birthday (this is why November is one of my favorite months:) I wish that you take this month to take care of you. You are not a Luxury, you are a priority.
Here's to you and shining bright like that diamond that you are.
The soap scum line is likely what’s on my face???? WHATT?????
In a recent conversation during training it was brought up that soap tends to be the go-to for face cleaner for many people and there are no visible problems so why stop. I used to and sometimes am that person who just washes her face with soap and moves on. Then a comment was made that it’s likely that the soap scum left in the tub is what our facial skin looks like under the surface. Ummmm gross!
That one comment has made me take 5 minutes per day to actually wash, cleanse, moisturize, and tone my face. This morning I noticed the glow and how easily my makeup was to put on. Can the soap scum really be what was on my face. I don’t know, but it definitely grosses me out at the thought so adios one, two, skip a few steps for self care.
What’s one step that you tend to shortcut? Why do we shortcut our own self-care anyway? Isn't it funny that we make changes based upon something that we fear or want so badly (most of the time it's fear, but hey the other works too).
La Palmera Spa
121 N. State St.
Abbeville, LA 70510
The Flood of 2016 has taught me a few things. One of those is that cats/dogs can make a point to play this game of chase, hiss, slap, run some more, tag you're it, and hiss again. When they are tired, the game is over and they go back to their spots of comfort. From a human's perspective it would appear that the cat cannot stand the dog and the dog continues to harass her no matter how annoyed she is. Honestly, it's just a game. They seem to enjoy it and we get a laugh for the night. It was even observed that the cat seems to be less stressed when the humans try to get a rise out of her too.
So you see, the Flood of 2016 may have put us all in situations which we are unfamiliar with, but you can be a calmer state (even with more stress) if you allow yourself to play a game, get it out of your system, and go about your business. The problem with us humans is that we tend to let the game keep playing, don't hiss and take control, and we don't allow our own beings to find comfort that we need in a time of unfamiliarity.
Play the game of cat/dog if you need or just laugh at the cat/dog if playing isn't your thing these days, but whatever you do take a break and enjoy the uncomfortable of your present.
Owner/Stress Management Life Coach
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La Palmera Spa
121 N. State St.
Abbeville, LA 70510
The images represent randomness that occurred in my life. The beautiful butterfly landed on the limestone drive during my daily walk and I waited until it opened it's wings to see it in all of it's beauty. The sun images were discovered when I took 1 of our 2 dogs, Jane Alexander, out and looked to the left and realized that just around the back of our home the sun was so bright that I couldn't even look too long. It was amazingly bright and put me in a state of awee.
Both of these are random landings in my life and that's how I feel about a lot of things. The reminders of when we worry and how we never know when a random landing is set to arrive. What if our worry takes up so much space that we miss the random landing? What if we miss out telling someone that we love them? What if we miss the random landing of another person in our life because we are so caught up in the hustle and bustle of each day? What if we miss the random landing of our own being and miss the intentions that are supposed to be taking? What if we miss the random landing of our own health and positive energy because we never stop long enough to take care of ourselves?
Today, I ask you to share a random landing moment in your own life. Just comment below with a picture or a word or two to share the random landing that you noticed because you sat still long enough to hear it, see it, and do something about it.
La Palmera Spa
121 N. State St. Abbeville, LA 70510
I consider Buddha a very wise man. He said "To keep the body in Good Health is a duty...otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind STRONG and CLEAR." From personal experience, I consider this to be truth. When I first opened La Palmera Spa I was so caught up in the day to day going ons, the behind the scene challenges, and the what seemed to be never-ending "band-aids" that I put my duty of achieving good health aside. Growing up I was very active and competitive in several sports and then life as an adult happened. I grew a garden of family, job, financial stress, etc. and then something clicked. I began signing-up for 5Ks, walking/running nearly daily, and from that moment the clarity shows up daily. Granted there was a time period that I took about a month or 6 weeks off of this routine, but got back to it. This has been one of the best things that I have done. I feel the strength and clarity that my Mind gains daily. The MindBody Connection is real and both depend on eaach other.
Recently I've witnessed a great deal of people walking by La Palmera Sap and are doing so for exercise, "wow" a few of us thought, "there are so many people who suddenly taken their health seriously" and then we realized...Pokemon is on the loose. It's quite funny how one little "make believe character" can get us moving. If you don't download Pokemon then create a make-believe character to chase after too. Your good health is your duty and your mind is strong and clear because of it.
Want to go beyond looking for Pokemon or just can't join in because? Search our menu of services www.lapalmeraspa.com/services.html and see what grabs your "MindBodyLuxury".
Have you watched our video of our new "Portable Sauna"?www.facebook.com/LaPalmeraSpa/videos/vb.513178175410719/1094952353899962/?type=2&theater
La Palmera Spa
121 N. State St.
Abbeville, LA 70510
Audrey Hepburn said, "To Plant a Garden is to Believe in Tomorrow". Each and everyday we plant seeds that we believe are going to grow. The challenges come in when weeds pop up and steal those nutrients from our plants. We pull, we spray, we fertilize, we do it again day after day.
The same is true when the garden of La Palmera Spa was planted. Each and every day we water it, we fertilize it, we love it, and we believe in tomorrow. We have experienced loss of clients, loss of vital parts of our team, belief in our garden gets tested, challenged, and weeds show up. Once they get to be too strong we pull them out or they eventually wither on their own by taking on a new garden. We remain resilient, we remain faithful, and we remain creative and innovative with you in mind.
To be completely honest with you, we have had many challenges regarding staff to the extreme(death and 2 broken feet) or a little less extreme, but still classified as major loss, such as resignations, not working out for one reason or another , disappointments, etc which has temporarily limited our services that we want to provide. We strive to be more and do more for each of you. We know of the many challenges our area faces, but none of this destroys the belief in our garden, it only empowers us to keep planting and keep weeding.
Speaking of weeding, we are seeing quite a few folks who are injuring themselves in their own gardens or who went Red Snapper Fishing and found themselves injured or sore. As well the recent tornadic activity had lots of trees and debris around and quite a bit of people jumped right in to clean up the mess. All of these activities have led to back pain, neck problems, sciatic issues, etc. Gardening, yard work, and fishing are intense forms of exercise and we are reminding you of proper stretching and regular fitness programs. Because many of our clients are high achievers who work (a lot) and are the DIY type of guy or gal we are just reminding you that a little stretching goes a long way. You can also call us @ 337-740-7422 or drop in (121 N. State St., Abbeville) to ask one of our therapists to give you some stretches specific for the areas or activities that you love.
Your La Palmera Spa Family
Stress Management Life Coach/Owner
Have you ever tried a massage or had a bad experience with one and vowed to yourself to never go through that again? Well rumor has it that many people have never had a massage before.
Here are a couple of tips for you to think about if you have secretly wanted one, but don't like people touching you, had a bad one, heard horror stories or whatever has held you back from trying it out.
1) wear as little or as much clothing as you prefer, such as, tank tops, loose shorts, undergarments, nothing, it's all up to you.
2) tell your therapist what type of music you relax best to
3) let your therapist know if you want to talk or just be silent during session
4) tell your therapist what is bothering you most, if the pressure is too hard or too light, and most importantly what you need out of the session most.
The benefits of massage outweigh the fear of being uncomfortable because you are in control of your session.
Stress Management Life Coach
La Palmera Spa
121 N. State Street
What scares you the most about eyelash extensions? Is it that you will be a horror story? Your eyelashes fell out? You had a severe reaction to the glue?
For me, it's that I always had beautiful eyelashes and never really considered or wished for longer...until now. I am a bit afraid that my natural ones stop growing, but that's false. Eyelashes grow continuously and I am really excited to get mine done. Let us know what your fears are and we will answer them a.s.a.p to help you make a more informed decision or relay the information on to others.
Spring is near! At least according to the clocks that are going to get changed. Is it really that simple to modify and adjust to a new season? For me, I do focus on the amount of time that I get to spend outdoors instead of that one hour of sleep that I won't ever get back until the next time change.
How do you adjust to these seasons?
As winter comes and goes, then comes back, bringing lots of snow to some and just cold to others. Otis Redding said it best..."Sitting with the doc' on the bay Watching the waves roll our away I'm just sitting with the doc' on the bay Passin the time...".
Don't we wish for this dock and the beauty of of an Island far away from the anxiety, stress, and worry. Worry-free from a typical focus on bank accounts, past due fees, or relationship problems? Whatever your day to day routine is there is no better way than to drift away with the image of a wave or the still of the water.
Water sounds are a great escape and way to minimize the feelings of anxiety. No beach handy? Put on some music, watch a meditation video, or play a favorite old song that will get you in the groove. Seasonal Affective Disorder does exist, but taking care of yourself both mind and body can help you speed up the endorphines for the "feel good feeling" to kick into high gear before our upcoming season. Here's to you "Rising with the Morning sun"
From the Mind of a Massage Therapist
When I think of the massage profession and the spa industry as a whole, a quote comes to mind:
"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest accomplishment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." - Leo Buscaglia
And it makes sense, doesn’t it? We are in a position where we have the potential to touch the lives of so many on a daily basis. People come to us for so many reasons, some because they need an escape from their busy lives, others because they have an ailment that they are seeking relief from, or because they are celebrating a special occasion and sometimes it’s because they just need that human connection. When you stop and think about it we are lucky in a sense, because they trust us enough to share their lives with us, sometimes in their most vulnerable moments.
That is why most of us do what we do. Yes, with our knowledge and experience we affect them in a physical way, by working out their muscles, relieving their pain, making them beautiful, etc., but our presence and compassion are what affects them on a mental and emotional level. That compassion and presence is what makes the experience stand out.
This thought was validated for me after reading a book, Life as a Daymaker by David Wagner. His inspirational story is about how he saved the life of a client that was contemplating suicide just by going the extra mile to make her experience a good one, he had no idea at the time that she was that distressed. It wasn’t until he received a letter from her weeks later thanking him that he knew the impact that he had made. He makes a good point by saying What if he would have just rushed through the service, or had he chosen not to joke and laugh with her or had he not spent that extra 15 minutes making her hair look great, what would the outcome have been then? This made me think. What if the next client on my table is going through some battle we know nothing about and the experience she has with me could be the determining factor for her to give up or be the thing that turns her life around. Seems like a lot of pressure to put on giving a massage or any other service, but is it really? Shouldn’t we be giving our best anyway? Shouldn’t our clients have our complete presence and attention for the hour or so that they scheduled with us? Within his book he includes several quotes, two of those quotes stood out to me:
“To be successful, the first thing to do is fall in love with your work.” – Sister Mary Laurette
“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burden of it for someone else.” – Charles Dickens
It is no secret that I love what I do, my biggest reward is not the monetary compensation, but the response and gratitude from the clients that I’ve helped. Making a difference for them in a way is healing for me and also gives me a sense of purpose. While we should do our best to make their day, there are times that in fact without even knowing it, they make our day. That’s not to say that is the case with every client, but if I can touch the life of at least one person in a day, then I have done my job. There is no doubt that this is what I was meant to do.
As massage therapists and spa technicians most of us lead busy lives, but in that treatment room time slows down. In that time, lies an opportunity to make a connection, to make a difference and sometimes even change a life. In achieving that, we ourselves push our bodies to the limit and usually end the day exhausted, but it is the thought of how what we do potentially having a profound impact on someone’s life that inspires us to get up and keep doing it day after day. I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.
Laura L. Collins, LMT - Daymaker
I don't know about you, but I've abandoned this Black Friday concept of fighting crowds, arriving the night before to wait in lines, leaving family on Thanksgiving Day to go shopping, or whatever it is that goes on which increases Stress Levels on a day of or after giving Thanks.
Can we really be thankful or excited about giving when stressed out beyond our limits? The idea of being away from the crowds suits me just fine! I'd rather be televised for being at a Spa than fighting over the last toy on the shelf.
I'm not rejecting the idea of Black Friday, for it's just as much as a tradition for some as Thanksgiving, but I'm definitely abandoning it. La Palmera Spa is having Spa Friday Specials where you can get pampered and get that Christmas Shopping done all at once.
Here's to Setting Sail on Spa Friday!
Do you often tell yourself or others that you never have any free time and are always so busy? Is there ever a time that you sit down to take a short break and then get "busy" again?
Do you find yourself that you need some "me" time, but quickly make that thought vanish? Well as with many people in this busy world you are not alone. It is proven that many of us who tend to be natural givers never give to ourselves because well that's just selfish.
Not in the least, taking time for yourself actually makes you feel better about giving to others. It provides you with clarity, focus, and generally a more positive outlook. Schedule your me time today and have more to give with this upcoming Thanksgiving Holiday.
Here's to the givers and those you selflessly take better care of themselves by scheduling time with themselves. Here's to YOU!
So it seems that I have earned a new reputation in town and that I’m now known as “The Oxygen Lady”. Not a reputation that I ever imagined, but it’s fun and makes me chuckle. I first heard this term when I spoke to Chris Rosa, a local newspaper columnist. He was coming to interview me as he was interviewing several other women in the community. I told him my name (Nicky Stansbury), place of business La Palmera Spa & Nicholyn Coaching), and he immediately said, “oh yes, you are The Oxygen Lady”. I admit that I was taken a bit back and remember thinking that I guess I could have been called worse. So he did the interview and found our Oxygen Bar so intriguing that he wanted to do an entire segment on our Oxygen Bar. The article comes out the next day and on the front page there we are. Nowhere in the article did he mention my newest catch phrase, but throughout the community I keep hearing “The Oxygen Lady”. People aren’t even talking to me, but are holding general conversations and using this phrase. So how did I ever become known as “The Oxygen Lady? My only guess is because we have brought in something very new to our community and this is how it came about.
As I was searching for beautiful entrances in the designing phase of La Palmera Spa I found this idea of an oxygen bar. Immediately, I thought that it looked cool and asked Keith (my Husband), if he had ever heard of it or saw one. He said no, but immediately thought of the Scuba Diving training and knowledge that he has for recovery. We talked about it and I researched it further. What I found was a ton of health benefits and the exciting part was that it’s also some aromatherapy involved in this Oxygen Bar. Many NFL players used it and I knew that if they use it with the beatings that they take, then it must work. I continued my research and found an O2 bar that is made by the NFL.
This Oxygen Bar is very mobile so I take it to Expos and health fairs, but for the most part it is hanging out in La Palmera Spa and is used by many. Many people come try it because they are stopped up and not feeling well. They leave feeling refreshed and able to breath clearer. 90% of our energy comes from oxygen and a lack of oxygen can contribute to weight gain, sexual dysfunction, cancer and disease, altitude sickness, fatigue and sleep disorders, suppression of the immune system, poor circulation, poor digestion, depression, memory loss & poor concentration, muscle aches and pains, headaches, and hangovers.
The oxygen is not kept under pressure nor is it administered from a tank, therefore, it is not medical oxygen. Since oxygen is dry and has no smell it is passed through a glass bottle with water and essential oils. You sit and hangout at our table and have a nasal cannula (nose hose) which provides you with over 94% pure oxygen and aromatherapy. This combination is a win-win. Aromatherapy has been used since Cleopatra and sense of smell can retrieve many wonderful memories.
We are dedicating this month as Oxygen Bar Month....With the Purchase of a Gift Certificate You Receive an Oxygen Bar Session Free!
The Oxygen Lady
Nicky Stansbury, MSCS, CLC
The heat of summer has definitely arrived in Southwest Louisiana as it has in many other areas of the world.
Physical activity stresses the body, but heat increases that stress even more. Although, acclimatizing can reduce the severity of stress on your body, it's not likely that can be done every time. The effects include anything from heat rash to heat stroke.
Some of the warning signs to look for include:
By consistently drinking lots of pure water and taking your time when introducing your body to a new environment you can minimize the stress of heat. Make sure to get some rest and relaxation to give your body time to heal itself.
A face is the first thing a person looks at when speaking to you. Do you often worry about someone finding a flaw on yours or do you love your face and have no worries at all.
Many people think about another looking at their face and wondering if they will find something that we see in the mirror and are troubled by, but often attempt to cover.
Facials help with warding off wrinkles and keeping skin hydrated. Often your face will reflect the bad habits or troubled minds that we have. Facials remove the blackheads, exfoliate dry skin, fade dark spots, and remove evidence of bad habits.
As we age, our skin care needs change. Think of your face like raisin bran. It starts off supple like a grape, then you'll have some bran flakes, and then the raisins arrive. With a professional facial you remain in soft, shiny grape phase.
Deep-clean facials draw out impurities. Adult acne strikes 1 in 5 women between 25 and 40 years of age. This is one fact that I definitely experience. If you are prone to them, like myself, facials help this. Acne was not something that I had to worry about in my teens, but as an adult, I'm very susceptible.
Hormones, stress, environments, habits, and diet all play a huge part in what our face looks and feels like. Take care of your face and by getting regular facials to keep your youthful plump grape cells.
Love Your Face Now and It Will thank you later!. It's never too late to reverse the damage that has been done.
So what is an oxygen bar? An oxygen bar is just that...a pub style bar to sit and inhale oxygen. Recently I had the pleasure of attending a health expo at PHI. As part of the benefit for me going the employees were able to try it out and the responses were phenomenal. The skeptics enjoyed it most. While inhaling oxygen you also get aromatherapy thanks to the awesome essential oils that are added to the water so you aren't breathing dry oxygen.
Realizing that this is new here, it is extremely common in California and Las Vegas. The oxygen bar is great for hangovers, headaches, aches and pains, sexual dysfunction, stuffiness, and a whole lot more. Many athletes, including NFL players, use oxygen and based upon the testimonials and my experience I can see why. Many more benefits will be coming in the next blog posts.
The best part is that it is so much fun to do with your friends. You can relax and enjoy each other's company all at the same time. Hanging out while having a nasal cannula in your nostrils is definitely a new look. It is very, very cool :)
NIcky Stansbury is the Founder of La Palmera Spa and StressLessSecrets. She is passionate about inspiring others to respond instead of reacting to life's plot twists.